Love Dare: Day 4

Love Dare Day 4:

Love is Thoughtful

As many of the other dares did, this one hit close to home. One of the BIGGEST issues in me and E's relationship was the fact that we were so comfortable with each other, he thought he did not have to show me he loved me, I should just know. I understand that we have been together awhile and that the whole giddy feeling will not always be there. But that feeling has been replaced with a greater feeling....love. This day clearly stated that women are alot more thoughtful then men..and it's true. There were many days I would sit there and just think of things to do for Eric that would surprise him or showed him I loved him. Men don't have that kind of mindset. I also learned through Day 4 that men DO NOT understand when women try to tell them things between the lines. I would ALWAYS do this. Hint around to what was bothering me instead of just coming out and saying it. Eric would always just bluntly say what was on his mind (which I always admired) when he did decide to talk about things. I am working so hard on saying exactly what is bothering me instead of hinting around. And he is working extremely hard on talking about what is going on instead of keeping it inside. We have already come so far and learned a lot about each other and it's only Day 4!

Favorite Quotes:

Love thinks. It’s not a mindless feeling that rides on waves of emotion and falls asleep mentally. It keeps busy in thought, knowing that loving thoughts precede loving actions.

If you don’t learn to be thoughtful, you end up regretting missed opportunities to demonstrate love. Thoughtlessness is a silent enemy to a loving relationship.

Men, for example, tend to think in headlines and say exactly what they mean. Not much is needed to understand the message. His words are more literal and shouldn’t be overanalyzed. But women think and speak between the lines. They tend to hint. A man often has to listen for what is implied if he wants to get the full meaning.

Love requires thoughtfulness—on both sides—the kind that builds bridges through the constructive combination of patience, kindness, and selflessness. Love teaches you how to meet in the middle, to respect and appreciate how your spouse uniquely thinks.

Bible Verses:

How precious also are Your thoughts to me. . . . How vast is the sum of them! If I should count them, they would outnumber the sand. —Psalm 139:17–18